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I have my Tinder filters set to include men and women between the ages of 24 and 50 judge ya mama, not me in a six-mile radius of my Oakland, California, apartment.

In my hometown of Atlanta, similar settings Oakland woman wanting sex blue provided matches to a trove of black folk running the spectrum of color, size, gender, ability and sexuality — a playground of sorts, filled with the uncles of a few former classmates, a well-renowned porn star living in Buckhead and one time, unfortunately, my fourth-grade art teacher.

I am reminded with every swipe Oakland woman wanting sex blue my body is an irregularity in the world. I have somehow managed to be not just black, but darker than most people here Fountain inn SC sex dating the Bay Area.

I have managed to ignore the trending master cleanses, the Atkins diets and all other manifestations of the thin-crazed California culture which paints my lb body into an oddity. On any ordinary day, a seemingly harmless match can lead to an Asian-diasporic dyke asking Oakland woman wanting sex blue zex can lick the chocolate off of me.

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And suddenly, there it is: Raury J, 28 years old, has matched! I hate dark-skin females. She was only three miles away. I am not the darkest-skinned person I know; I teeter between brown and deep brown.

But I frequently have moments of uncertainty. I Oakand up in the south where, for the most part, all variations of skin tones were considered acceptable, beautiful. Colorism was still there, faintly: I remember getting scolded for playing in the sun too long.

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But as I got older it became exhausting to navigate relationships in my dark black body. It has become my job to Curvy woman 4 curvy woman the people in my life that the burden of their anti-black conditioning falls on me.

If anti-blackness denies a black person their humanity, then the primary function of colorism is to normalize a world in which people are offered less dignity, empathy and, yes, desirability, the deeper their complexion is. Oakland woman wanting sex blue people have for decades self-corralled to follow the rules of colorism: I have never understood the role colorism plays in the cheap politics of desirability more than here, on the west coast.

The Oakland woman wanting sex blue of my childhood are more vicious now coming out of the mouths of women on Tinder.

You look angry in your profile picture! My Tinder profile picture is me smiling in a bikini in the Pacific Ocean. My belly is well moisturized, my crooked teeth backlit by the sun. I was a little afraid to meet you this late.

I met her in my favorite neighborhood bar that evening at 7pm. When I asked her what about me seemed so scary, she appeared baffled.

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Chile, I strictly date black women. What about a darker-skinned, fat black girl?

My heart sinks as I listen to her otherize my body, my decidedly un-classic beauty. With a shrug of her shoulders, she threatens an entire lifetime of my work wsnting affirm my own value.

When I leaned in for a platonic peck on her cheek at the end of our brief date, she shrunk away and stuck her hand out. The labor of love is so great Oakland woman wanting sex blue I have often wondered why it is that I continue to explore partners outside of my primary relationship.

And then I realize how radical it is to assert my own right to pleasure in a world that wants nothing more than to steal it from me. I have more vocabulary to talk about the ways I experience desire and pleasure, I do not withdraw in shame when it is time to discuss how I like to be touched or spoken to or engaged.

Previously, I had felt the need to explain my worth to partners, to entice them with my humor or intelligence, bartering these gifts for their attention Oakland woman wanting sex blue the darkness and largeness of my body. There are defeating moments where I am reminded how little love the world has for dark-skinned girls. I celebrate the soft Horny asian women Red Wing parts of me, the places I hid from my early lovers, the pieces I try not to recoil Oakland woman wanting sex blue, myself.

Most days, I do not mind at all. Honestly, neither do I.

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